According to his FTO, he was doing better than he thought. As it turns out, David was being hyper-critical of himself. ![]() I can always ask her how she thinks I’m doing. Trying to second guess my FTO is going to mess with my concentration. This is what they came up with: I’m a rookie, rookies make mistakes, that doesn’t mean I’m about to be fired. He helped David rephrase his thoughts and soften his self-talk. He sought help from a peer supporter who pointed out that David was catastrophizing, reading his FTO’s mind, and fortune telling. David (not his real name) got an unacceptable rating from his FTO and reacted as if he was about to be terminated. Do an honest cross examination.ģ: Change your thoughts to something more reasonable, yet realistic. Capture the thought: Ask yourself “What was I saying to myself before I started feeling down, frightened, anxious, angry, in need of a drink?” Check your thinking against the above list.Ģ: Challenge yourself by asking yourself the following: “What’s the evidence that my negative thoughts are true?” Be tough. Can you stop Stinking Thinking? Yes you can. They’ll defund the police, I’ll lose my job, can’t pay my mortgage, my wife will leave me and take the kids with her.If only I had been working that day, turned left not right, just drove a little faster or a little slower that (fill in the blank) would or wouldn’t have happened.Ĭatastrophizing: looking for bad outcomes and/or acting that it’s already happened.Magical thinking/unreasonable self-blame (usually starts with the phrase “if only”) I failed at this relationship, I’m going to fail at every relationship I try.No matter what I do, he will always hate me.Super Powers: Mind Reading and Fortune Telling Here are some common thinking errors:Īll or Nothing Thinking: Usually associated with the words always or never. ![]() Stinking Thinking usually starts with a trigger, often a criticism or a nasty remark, followed by a thinking error (aka an unproductive thought) followed by a negative emotional response. This happens so fast, you probably don’t know it’s happening. Too much negative self –talk and too many thinking errors result in a negative mood like depression, anxiety, or the urge to drink. The only problem is that when negative thoughts become habitual or are applied in the wrong context, they can be damaging. ![]() If you’re a cop, a negative bias override is tactically necessary for safety on the job. The moral of this story? Better to be embarrassed than to be someone’s supper. ![]() Whereas the cave person who got scared and ran away-even if the noisy animal turned out to be a harmless house cat-lived to tell the tale. A cave person who ignored a rustling in the bushes could be eaten by a sabre-tooth tiger. This is called a negative bias override and it comes from the need for survival dating back to cave person days. We are all prone to making thinking errors that tend toward the negative. How we think and talk to ourselves determines how we feel and how we act. Takes me out to parties when I’d rather be alone It takes me out a-walkin’ when I’d rather stay at home In police work, thinking the worst can make the job safer and your life harder.
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